Cracking the Code of Captivating Charm: The Ingredients to Genuine Inner Attractiveness Unveiled

I was red, but now i’m blue.

A perfect phrases to show when someone is having low self esteem or even confidence degradation. How it happens?

Have you ever feel like walking out into the outside world is the same as walking out on a red carpet, camera flashes, try to impress everyone just to be called.. damn she walks in fire. After all.. is it what i really seek? public judgement? Pathetically yes.

I believe we, us, everyone facing this type of phase once in their life. Waking up in a red tight dress, walking back home in a dirty lush t-shirt. Planning stuff like a perfect world tour, ended up ruining your day.

Sometimes a well planned day we perfectly create will loose to the one who’s waking up at 12 PM, no job, but still manage to throw advices like a TED speaker. Isn’t it unfair? Then how am i supposed to react? yes.. be unbothered.

This goes beyond just external appearances and emphasizes the importance of developing the ability to receive and implement useful advice or notes. It highlights the significance understanding how we processes information to enhance self-esteem. This implies that there is a need to focus on both internal and external factors to improve self-esteem and confidence also allows them to receive constructive feedback and use it to their advantage. Just like when you’re at the grocery store, and you need to choose which apple to put in your cart, right?

We’re constantly bombarded with images of what society deems as attractive. From the latest fashion trends to the perfect body type, it’s easy to get caught up in the superficial aspects of beauty. But what about charm? What truly makes a person attractive beyond their physical appearance? What are the things i’m trying to pull by looking attractive? Man? Money? Jobs? Self Statisfaction?

Well, it’s not inherently wrong to desire attractiveness, the issue lies in who you seek validation from. It’s essential to remember that beauty standards can vary widely, and what society deems as attractive may not align with your personal preferences or values.

My advice? i wont spend years dealing with outer attractiveness. Instead, i build my inner attractiveness. How? here are my practical ways to build resilience and overcome criticism.

Self-Decide to Vice Those Advices

We’re all constantly receiving advices from various sources whether we asked for it or not. We tend to choose advices from people that are close and are able to know your emotional history, right? i do too. But now, let’s zoom in on a specific type of advice.

Think about this, you’re the reciever of advice. You’re in a place where you really want advice, judgment, guidance or else. This scenario tends to happen when we hit roadblock in life and have no clue on how to handle, might be because we don’t have that specific past experience to guide or you feel new to the situation where you don’t even trust yourself to make the right decisions. Lacking a level of confidence or seeking for different perspectives

Asking others for advice is comforting in a way, i admit. It gave me hopes. But advices can be tricky. So don’t rely on it. You must have some specific decision from your own self. At any situation you are the one who’s living it. This is when the sorting game started. A good advice gives some spaces for someone to make an option. Advice is not like a concrete action, it’s more like projecting things through reasonable options, right? and all you have to do is take a bit and pieces of those sorted advices that applies to you and throwing the rest away. Same as public judgement. stop asking “are they right for saying that?” instead, say “are we living in the same space? are we relatable enough to make you confidence to throw those nonsense advices on me? no. exactly. This is where inner attractiveness has been cultivated.

You should deeply analyzed what you’re getting. Their confidence on giving advices will not guarantee everything. There are variables that plays a role too. Religions plays a role, our upbringing plays a role, live culture plays a role. Take those advices that aligns with your moral compass to an extent and doesn’t involve stooping to a level that is below what you think is morally good.

Develop Unbothered Mindset

Responding instead of reacting is key to staying unbothered by someone’s judgment. Take a deep breath and pause before responding. Consider the source and whether their judgment is valid or a reflection of their own insecurities.

Learn to let go of negative thoughts and opinions that don’t serve you. Instead of dwelling on criticism or judgment, focus on the positive aspects of yourself and your life. As Oprah Winfrey once said, “You are responsible for your life. You can’t blame it because life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.”

Realize that someone’s judgment is often a reflection of themselves rather than an accurate portrayal of who you are. Consider the possibility that their opinions are influenced by their own biases, insecurities, or limited understanding.

Let Go of the Need for Approval

Recognize that seeking validation from others is a never-ending cycle. Instead, focus on valuing your own opinion and prioritizing self-acceptance over the approval of others.

Recognize that societal standards of beauty and attractiveness are subjective and changeable. Understand that you don’t have to conform to these standards to be validated or feel confident in yourself. Embrace your individuality and celebrate what makes you unique.

Also… understand that you can’t please everyone. Accept that it’s impossible to please everyone and that seeking approval from others can be an endless pursuit. Focus on self-acceptance and prioritize your own happiness and well-being over seeking validation from others.

To sum it up, dealing with low self-esteem and confidence degradation requires both internal and external factors.

Building resilience and overcoming criticism involves making decisions for ourselves rather than relying solely on others’ guidance. It is crucial to analyze the advice we receive and only accept what aligns with our values and morals. Developing a mindset that is not affected by judgment means responding instead of reacting and letting go of negative thoughts and opinions that do not benefit us.

After all…

True attraction often stems from the comfort a person has within their own skin. Embracing your unique qualities, and individuality can make you more attractive because it reflects self-acceptance.